Sweet Bobby

Kirat and Bobby have an unusual relationship. The circumstances of their individual lives mean it’s difficult for them to meet face to face but, despite everything, they end up falling in love.

Their romance might play out online but in many ways it’s a traditional love story. Until Kirat discovers the disturbing truth. 

Sweet Bobby is the #1 chart-topping, award-winning series about a sophisticated ten year scam that almost destroyed one woman’s life, and the investigation into the catfisher behind it all.

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Recent Reviews

SarahJHBelle

Interesting and Sad

Alexi does a lovely job writing & reporting. His voice is so pleasant to listen to!
Mooksie Michelle

Great!

I enjoyed this podcast. I think the host did a great job spending the time needed to help us understand how someone could fall under the spell of this scam. Some of these comments are so heartless and insensitive I can’t. The victim blaming is astounding! I feel for Kirat, Simran is clearly a psychopath and these commenters lack empathy and it makes my blood boil and sad for humanity.
raelistenstopodcasts

Less describing more evidence

The narrator stated multiple times there were many characters reaffirming Bobby’s existence and actions but could have used actual transcripts to prove the sophistication of the deception.
joandietitian

Hey help

This woman needs help. It was difficult to hear and to believe someone was ignorant enough to believe this silly scenario. I hope I don’t know a woman who’d act so irresponsibly self delusional and so completely full of herself.
cc779

Not in depth

Felt like it only needed two episodes to tell what the narrator did then kept going over everything again. Didn’t do well to get in the point of view of the victim so I ended up more confused about how she got sucked in to the scam. I think there’s a lot more to it than what the podcast goes through. Seemed like the same things were repeated again and again. Was a pretty shallow true crime podcast.
cantaloupe0114

Deeply disturbed people

Both women are messed up. Simran is cruel and the other one … well I just don’t know. Both need professional help. The idea that someone will spend years loving text messages and a faceless voice …. And that Simran is enjoying this… Simran is a deeply troubled person … akin to someone who enjoys torturing animals…
__Blahhhh__

Amazing storytelling & insane story

I don’t understand the lack of empathy in some of these comments. Kerat was a victim of serious abuse and manipulation, she didn’t do anything wrong and she’ll be dealing with the trauma from this for the rest of her life.
jimmyphil1

Way too many ads

Way to many ads
Except why

No

Spent an inordinate amount of time playing up the “sophistication” of the scam to detract attention from the colossal lack of accountability displayed by the victim. Well and sane people do not spend the better part of a decade in an abusive relationship with a faceless, never-met human. Period. This podcast wasn’t good.
goodpodclub

Not worth the listen

Seems like this girl was just plain stupid. Also, audio includes very gross mouth sounds.
Chrstphr Hss

🤯 Mind Blown

These reviews are are just as good as the show and the show was so intriguing.
JamesFestini

How gullible can one be?

I really liked this show. But the whole time I was yelling at the main character at how can anyone not suspect something after so much. I wanted so bad to Understand. Perhaps if one super lonely and desperately seeking love then maybe. As for punishment for the Catfish…I have no idea what I feel is justice. I’m sure she will do it again cause that person is sick.
Dawn-mck

Haters

Some of these bad reviews must be Simran? This show is amazing, unbelievably insane story!
RunnerinSD

The mouth noises- UGH!

Nothing ruins a podcasts faster than slimy mouth-smacking/swallowing noises. Ugh! It instantly takes the listener out of the story and grosses them out. Figure. Out. Your. Audio. I listen to various podcasts daily and this is rarely an issue if you know what you’re doing. People cry and are nervous all the time on podcasts- doesn’t mean you have to listen to their spit. Blech! Besides that ruining it- great story telling.
Teon77

Nope

Not well narrated, poorly written drags on
IyaToyin

Huh?

I don’t understand how this generation can “fall in love” with someone they’ve never met! Am I to understand the entire relationship was virtual??!! I’m sorry, I don’t get it….
ReadUWroteU

Meh

It’s ridiculous to pretend Kirat is not delusional and gullible … you did waste 10 years of your life on a ridiculous wild goose chase. I too didn’t exactly see a crime and wasn’t surprised the police didn’t do anything.
PK1313

Kirat is a joke

How can someone be that stupid. She needs to take responsibility!
Vegemighty

Was *I* just catfished?!

I feel victimized by this podcast. I’m fairly certain I was coercively-controlled into thinking this was a legit story about catfishing, … and made it through ALL the episodes … only to find out it was all an elaborate, “sophisticated” lie. Which police department do I call?
Nickname5244

Anonymous

I am getting commercials even though I’m a subscriber. Frustrating!
Dioecious05

The motive is obvious

Simran’s motive is obvious and it’s disappointing that the host/producers don’t give this sufficient airtime. Simran wanted love and affection, and she got it in the many many phone calls throughout the years. You say Kirat and Simran are in a socially conservative and patriarchal community. Of course anything that whiffs of same-sex romance is taboo, and this was just Simran’s warped way of having a romantic “relationship” with her. I can’t help but wonder if this whole story would’ve been treated differently if Simran was a man. Are we so blinded by heteronormativity to not even consider the possibility that this was done out of a toxic desire for intimacy and love gone terribly wrong?
xoxoKelliexoxo

Okay Story, Told Well

I’m not so sure the story/content itself is podcast-worthy. Kind of reminds me of just another episode of the Catfish series. What kept me listening to each episode was that it was told well and left you expecting some huge reveal at the end, then the end was like like meh 😐
Gcsdan

Interesting well told story

I truly appreciated the vulnerability and honesty shown by Kirat. Very interesting and easy to listen to.
NinaGarrRawr

Thrilling Journey

Really enjoyed how this show was written and delivered. I was sucked in during each episode and enjoyed how it was presented. I felt for Kirat as well as everyone involved and felt close to the story. Really wanted to reach out and hug Kirat.
mollykate2388

Disappointing Story

The production and narrator are great, but the story itself is ridiculous. I could understand a few months or a year of this - but over 10 years of your life not meeting your boyfriend? The ridiculous stories and emergencies? You didn’t recognize that the voices didn’t add up? Come on. It is very sick and sad that it was her cousin but I’m with her dad… let’s move on.
MSiwek

A waste of time

If you tell a story as though you were in love with a fictitious character for a decade but never had a video call or sexual photo then you are delusional. lol to ‘who have I been sleeping on the phone with for the past 3 years’ girl grow up
LizB1994

over rated

i kept expecting some crazy revelation but it was meh to me. how did a huge red flag not come up for the victim when her boyfriend never showed himself or met in person and said he was in “witness protection”? This wasn’t weird for her?
KirstinFunken

Drawn Out - Interesting Story

This was a slightly disappointing listen. While the host did great with what he had, i think the story just didn’t need to be drawn out for 6 episodes. The story, yes, is crazy. But more so crazy on a personal level for the victim rather than for the public to listen or relate to. But the dad, wow. I’d be enraged for my child, he sounds almost embarrassed. I do hope she got satisfaction or some closure getting to have this story told though. I would find it freeing getting my voice out there. It was an absolutely cruel thing to do to someone.
ProRated Pigeon

Better person than me

I would be in prison rn. Poor woman- what a sick, disgusting psychopath.
AnnaClaypoole

Road trip

While, frustrated with the actual chain of events. It was an extremely well done series. Super interesting listen for a long car ride!
MICHNJOE

Hard to listen to …. physically

The absolutely disgusting mouth sounds are making it impossible to finish. DO NOT listen through headphones. You’ve been warned. Give your main subject a glass of water or learn how to suppress those noises during the editing.
Cade Baccus

Get Over It

I was on the main character’s (and narrator’s) side, until the final episode. The girl gave a motive, she apologized. I agree with the father, I feel sorry for the perpetrator. She messed up, now leave her alone!
JenniferK310

Unfinishable…

I was unable to finish this podcast. I kept thinking, well how much money did this person pay the catfish or did they physically harm her? All they did was provide a lonely woman with comfort and hope for several years and that’s basically it.
ecreech

Great investigative reporting, but the editing is painful

I enjoyed the story, the narrator, and the general layout. But during the 3rd and 4th episodes, Kirat’s swallowing and the way it sounded like the mic was inside her mouth, really was difficult to listen to. I almost had to turn it off. Fortunately it cleared up because the last two episodes are informative and tie things together.
LetTheSunshine_In32

Really now…

I’m not sure why, but I expected more. The intro makes it seem like it’s a “mind blowing” catfish story. Was expecting this person to be Catfishing multiple people, lots of money and extortion involved, etc. Nope. The only weird thing is the person who ended up being the catfish, but even that was a bit of a snooze because there really was no reason for it. I guess I wanted something juicier. Actually, the more interesting part to me was the somewhat emotional immaturity of main character who got catfished. She is the same age as me. If she had even watched one or two episodes of the MTV Catfish she wouldn’t have let this go on for 10 years!! Red flags up the ying-yang here folks. You are in a serious “relationship” with someone who won’t turn on their WebCam, even one time? Come on. And they experience catastrophe after catastrophe so they can never meet? Good grief. This is like kindergarten level stuff.
RALondon

Couldn’t Finish It

I just couldn’t finish the podcast. My aggravation level couldn’t handle it. I’m one of those people that can’t fathom how someone could fall for this.
SunnyBunny75

Unremarkable story that was dragged on for too many episodes

I never do this but I had to listen at 2x speed bc this podcast was sooooo slow! I’m guessing this was done for dramatic effect but I just wanted the podcast to get on with it already! I thought this might be a juicy podcast for my husband and I to listen to together, but I’m glad I didn’t suggest this bc he would’ve thought the plot was entirely mid and ridiculous, and not in a gripping way! The entire podcast could’ve been summarized in a buzzfeed listicle.
CherryChalu

Overstimulating

Between the weird intro where there’s 5 people talking over each other, the added noises like phone chimes, and how slow the narrator talks so I have to speed it up to the point where the noises are much more annoying, I couldn’t do this. I’m sorry. -an autistic woman who had to be in silence after 10 minutes of listening to this podcast
CR_32

Good but not a jaw dropper

It’s definitely a good and interesting podcast, but not a jaw dropper as I’ve heard from others. I knew who it was by the beginning of episode 2.
Ginakristin

WOW.

Thai podcast is fascinating on so many levels. It’s interesting to hear Kirat’s perspective, and her family’s perspective/how they reacted. Simran is fascinating and demented. Overall a really entertaining, well-done podcast!
Redtootsiepop

Drags on

I understand that catfishing is wrong, but I can’t listen to Kimran blaming EVERYTHING on her cousin. Not having children, not taking job opportunities, not having friends, etc., etc., You were in your 30’s and believed you were in a relationship for 8 years without having ever met the person. Take some responsibility for your own life.
little_blue3

Good podcast

It was a good podcast, and gripping. Although I could not stand hearing the swallowing on the recordings.
Quiet hooman

…

GRIPPING 💀
btpizzamom

Move on please!

I think the most painful part of this story is Kirat's own role in allowing this ordeal to continue to torment her long after it was done and stifle her ability to heal. I really hope she's been able to move on and put this behind her for her own sake. Stop focusing on what you need from Simran (you won't EVER be satisfied with the actions of a sociopathic narcissist like that) and focus on what you need to do for yourself to heal.
bacjkc04

Plot twist

Interesting podcast but really made me question the main character’s story completely when I heard the last episode. Excuses, excuses.
lostintheGQ

I don’t know …

It’s a compelling story, BUT … In the beginning they talk about what a tight knit community the Sikh population is and how everyone knows one another. So how did this woman manage to have a relationship for 10 years with a person pretending to be a man who, in reality, lived only about 100 kilometers away??? She must have been keeping the “relationship” very secretive. That’s a huge red flag. And why in the world did she think it was okay to become a friend and confidant to a married man in the first place? She asks at the end of any one of the listeners would do things differently and my answer is a resounding “YES”! I don’t care what generation you’re from, if you’ve been communicating for a couple months and still haven’t met the person you’re not in a real relationship.
Regmeyet

Well done but dumbfounding

Such a well done story. But I always find it extremely hard to have empathy for victims that decided to pursue a relationship without ever meeting in person or visually seeing them online. Unfortunately, the only crime that seemed to be made was stealing of an identity. I hope her story helps others to be more proactive and smart about online relationships.
no_thank_yew

Reporting is great, subject is delusional

Great reporting. Saw the ending coming a few episodes in so it’s hard to sympathize with such a pathetic main character who ignored signs at every turn
Deeghoulie

ಠ_ಠ

I’m glad Kirat got her story out but I’m not really sure this needed to be a whole podcast? I feel for her and clearly Simran is a sicko but the catfishing itself didn’t seem particularly sophisticated. Idk maybe it’s because I’m part of the MTV Catfish generation but I wasn’t particularly shocked by the story.
Nikki1492

Just dumb and stupid

If you don’t meet a person after two or three written exchanges, you cut contact. No way would I ever allow a phantom to string me along. Same goes for online dating. Too many people out there who are married with children posing as singles to test their “market value.” Or to do some catfishing.